Definitions.

Boundary. The illusionary and arbitrary barrier separating and distinguishing one thing from another.

Identity. The perceived boundary between what is "you" and what is "not you". What "you" are is inside the boundary of your personal identity. Everything else is outside the boundary of your identity.

Spirit. The infinite identity.

Love. The conscious or unconscious extension of personal identity outward and the full assimilation, appreciation, and acceptance of everything inside your identity, although not necessarily agreement with everything. Striving to experience spirit.

God. The state of achieving identity with all of creation. "God is Love!" = Infinite Love = Infinite Identity = Spirit.

Love must be personally experienced before each person knows his or her true identity as spirit.

Explanations.

We are "children" of God. In this sense we are more "subsets" of God than "descendants". As children, we have not grown to our full potential of infinite identity, spirit. The youngest children have no boundaries. As they grow they establish boundaries at their body. We separate ourselves from our true spiritual identity by establishing these arbitrary and false boundaries called ego. For some, ego knows only the mind and body. Others know mind, body, and possessions. Yet others know mind, body, and conceptual beliefs. Until the ego begins to dissolve and you see your mind, body, possessions, beliefs, etc. as a part of something larger that these, you can never grow to your full potential as a spiritual entity.

A child loves a puppy or kitten as a possession. This is ego. When the child grows to love all puppies and kittens, all living things, whether under his stewardship or not, then his identity, his love, grows beyond his ego. He now loves these entities because they exist, not because they are his "possessions".

A young adult loves another person for the first time, so called puppy love. It is a possessive love. Ego! When puppy love turns into unselfish joy at seeing the other person happy, even with someone else, then the boundary of ego has dissolved in this instance, and true love, growth towards true identity, has begun.

"Love at first sight" is finding someone so close to your identity and/or you desired identity that you feel an immediate extension of your ego to encompass that person.

When your identification with that other person grows to the point that you seek the best for that person, even to the point of separation from you if needed, then you have grown beyond possessive ego love towards true love. The other person is part of you, even when they are not with you.